Do I Need Ushers At My Wedding?

Everyone needs a smiling face to accommodate them during a wedding. We aren’t talking about the bride and groom because they have too much to think about on an important day such as their own wedding. Ushers are people who help guests and distribute programs. They also escort the guests to their seats, among many other jobs that they do which is to generally help the wedding flow smoothly.

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Photo by Ann Larie Valentine and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

You might be thinking, what about the groomsmen and the bridesmaids? Well, it depends on your kind of wedding. Some weddings have a distinct difference between the two, while in some weddings groomsmen and bridesmaids are the ushers.

Do you need ushers? It depends on the number of people you have at your wedding. For weddings very large, it is crucial to have extra hands helping the wedding, especially when the groomsmen and bridesmaids are too busy doing other formal things. At weddings that are small and casual, you won’t need ushers if your groomsmen and bridesmaids are filling the role already.

Now that you’ve established whether you need usher or not, then you need to figure out how many ushers you need. The universal rule is that you need one usher for every 50 wedding guests, but that depends entirely upon how many you think would do. Too many ushers can also be a problem, especially if you don’t have a proper form of communication.

Traditionally, ushers are men, but we all know tradition doesn’t matter nowadays since the rules are very flexible. You can have women ushers if you prefer, or simply people you know who you can trust and is willing to lend a hand. These people must be very comfortable in talking to strangers.





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How Do I Ask Her To Be My Bridesmaid?

When a wedding date has been decided, what follows is choosing your groomsmen and bridesmaids. Sometimes we feel that we don’t need to go through much trouble to ask our closest friends to be our bridesmaids. This is true; however, there will be certain good friends that you still need to formally ask despite the closeness.

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Photo by LennyBaker and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

First thing to remember is as much as possible ask her face to face. For such an important position, it deserves such important declaration. This is best done face to face and in no other way, unless you are in the direst of situations…which is unlikely.

If your friend lives far away, a phone call could be done only if you have no other choice. Ask her with a sense of humor is you can. If you’ve run out of things to say, handing her a funny card asking her to be one of your bridesmaids could be a simple way to go.

If you wish to opt to be more mysterious in your proposal, you could send your bridesmaid-to-be a bridesmaid book with a matching note in the pages. “You might need this soon,” would be an excellent pitch.

Of course, there are many ways to ask her to be your bridesmaid but what they have in common is a personal touch. A wedding is an important day, so make your bridesmaid feel like she is also important enough for you to make an effort to ask her yourself. Never ever ask her to be your bridesmaid through someone else. Keep in mind; if she’s going to take time out of her day to spend with you, then you should take time out to ask her also.




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Who is the Maid of Honor?

Weddings are pretty stressful, and the bride and groom need help. Sure, the bridesmaids and groomsmen are there, but the person who bears the most responsibility other than the bride and groom is the maid of honor. An unmarried woman is called a maid of honor while a married woman is called matron of honor.

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Photo by Blaise Alleyne and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

The maid of honor has a special job. She has special duties, as well special benefits. She helps with the wedding in all aspects and makes everyone’s job easier. She does act like a wedding planner and helps around with the important details. She is the person the bride approaches first for guidance among all the other bridesmaids. She is the maid of honor because she is the favorite and most trusted.

The most basic job of a maid of honor is to help the bride. The bride and groom needs help planning the wedding and the maid or matron of honor is there to help them out. The choice of the maid of honor falls upon the bride since the maid or matron of honor assists the bride.

If there are other family members wishing to divide the load of work for the big day, then the maid or matron of honor’s job is a lot easier. If you are chosen to be the maid of honor, it would be more beneficial for you to delegate your jobs to other not so busy family members.

Of course, a man can be chosen as the maid of honor if the bride wishes this so. In our modern times, we already understand that men and women are equals, so it is only expected and understandable that these roles are not restricted to ones gender.





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How Do I Thank My Wedding Party?

Weddings can be an especially busy time not only for the groom and bride but also for the people helping out. The planning of the wedding can’t fall on one person alone; instead it’s a collaboration of other people as well. It takes a lot to pull off a successful wedding, but only a moment or two to say thank you. Friends and family are important, don’t make them feel unacknowledged.

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Photo by Ply Samudavanija and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

The wedding party are the people involved in the wedding namely your bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, pageboys, flower girls and everyone one who lent a helping hand. For pulling off a smooth wedding, it should definitely necessitate a big thank you.

How do you say thank you to people to show them how grateful you are? Each person has a role in the wedding so it is only right to individually thank them. A personalized gift can make anyone feel special and would make them feel that they are truly appreciated for their efforts.

More often than not, as a thank you, the bride usually buys jewelry for the special day and the bridesmaids get to keep them as a thank you. This is very handy so that the bridesmaids won’t have to think too much about the jewelry they should wear.

If you’ve ran out of ideas, you can send a thank you card to each and everyone to show thanks. Each card can contain a special thank you for the effort put forward. You can also accompany this thank you card with a gift.

Never forget to say thank you for someone’s unpaid effort. A small thank you can go a long way, but a little extra token of appreciation will go a lot further.





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How Do I Include Children In My Wedding?

Children are sometimes difficult to handle. It may be wise to make them part of the wedding so that they will feel quite important. There are different ways to include children on your special day that is age appropriate. Kids can be very unpredictable, especially when they are bored. Decrease the chances of chaos by making them busy and giving them a role. As expected, they must have an overseer, or a person they can ask when they are in need.

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Photo by S.Tore and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

Older children can be quite handy in a wedding. They can be a junior bridesmaid or groomsman. This can be quite handy to have someone around to help with menial tasks when the adults are busy with more important things. Another role for older children is a reader of a passage during the ceremony. At this age, they should be able to read proficiently. Last but not least, older more responsible children, perhaps children of your friends, can serve as an usher and help the guests to their seats.

If you aren’t sure what to do with younger children, they can always be flower girl or ring bearer. For a much more unique role, for children you have no idea what to do with, you can give them the task of being bouquet bearer. Don’t worry over younger children making a mistake, keep in mind no matter what mistakes they make they will always look adorable.

Most of all, it is important to make children comfortable during the wedding. Wedding ceremonies are long as well as the reception, it would be wise to have a separate room for children during the reception for children’s entertainment so the adults won’t be too stressed over taking care of them and running around after them. Take the time to think about the options you have and the roles you can let these children play at your wedding.

How Many Bridesmaids And Groomsmen Should I Have?

Are you having trouble deciding on how many bridesmaids and groomsmen you need to have? Well, you only need to have so many. The number of groomsmen you have at your wedding is a personal choice. This simply depends on who you want standing by your side on the big day.

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Photo by Quinn Dombrowski and publicly shared via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

In our world today, it is quite difficult to know the rules of etiquette, even if our world is made smaller by technology since we are made up of such diverse cultures. There are however, a few guidelines that will help you decide.

There should be at least one usher for every 50 wedding guests to be able to manage the crowd. The bridesmaids and groomsmen can help you usher your wedding, but you can also ask friends to do this for you.

For very large formal weddings with more than 200 guests, ideally there should be about 6-10 bridesmaids and groomsmen each. In addition, a ring bearer and a flower girl will be needed. In extremely formal weddings, you can have as many as a dozen bridesmaids but this is not very common.

Semi-formal weddings can have about 1-6 bridesmaids and groomsmen each, as well as a flowergirl and a ring bearer. Casual weddings sometimes only settle for a best man and a maid of honor. Casual weddings opt for no flower girls and ring bearers usually.

For weddings of older couples, most of them opt to not have bridesmaids and groomsmen but it really depends on the newlyweds. If you are an older bride or groom and have younger family members, you can choose to have them be your attendants.

Don’t be too restricted with the rules though. You can have as many or as few bridesmaids or groomsmen as you like. Do what feels right.

Beyonce and Jay Z Will Not Attend Kimye’s Wedding!

There have been reports claiming that Beyonce and Jay Z will choose to opt out of the wedding because they do not want to appear on Keeping Up With The Kardashians. The couple has turned down the invites to the wedding.

According to a source that told The Sun, “Jay Z would be there if it wasn’t going to be such a public event.” Of course, being Kanye West’s best friend, Jay is expected to be there together with Beyonce, but it seems like expectations don’t cut it.

Jay Z, however, will be making up for it by preparing Kanye an effusive stag party at his New York club called 40/40. “’Instead he’s making it up to his mate by throwing him the most extravagant stag do known to man.” The source continued, “It will cost a small fortune – and to top it all off, he’s chucked a £100,000 yacht rental in there as a wedding gift as well.”

Kim and Kanye have a 10-month old daughter, North West, and will be tying the knot in May.

Kim Kardashian and Beyonce Knowles were caught enjoying themselves at a dermatology clinic. Kim was spotted eagerly trying to chat Beyonce up. “Kim seemed so excited to see Beyoncé and was really eagerly going over to her.” This comes to no surprise as Beyonce has been described as unenthusiastic to meet Kim.

The eyewitness continued, “But Beyoncé looked like she wanted nothing to do with Kim and was really trying to stay away from her.

“Kim was basically fawning all over her. The two women did have a brief chat, with Beyonce asking about Kardashian’s daughter North West.”

“Beyonce and Kim did speak at the clinic. They had a friendly chat and then went about their days.”

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